Ponder This

August 28, 2015

Watching someone you love drink

Filed under: Living a Healthy Lifestyle — by Ponder This @ 9:28

Imagine someone you love dearly is watching you while you drink. Here is what they see:

Daddy came home from work late today. Mommy is mad at him and they are yelling. He tells her to get off his back, his job is hard and he needed a few drinks to unwind. Daddy missed my first dance recital and he promised he would be there. I kept looking in the audience but the chair next to Mommy was empty. I don’t understand why Daddy doesn’t love me.

Tears fall on my pillow. Mommy told me Daddy had to work late and that is why he didn’t come. I finally fall asleep while Mommy and Daddy yell.

When I wake up, Daddy is still in bed. I jump on his bed and tell him good morning. He tells me to go away he has a headache and doesn’t feel good, so I leave him alone.

I hear Mommy calling Daddy’s work telling his boss Daddy is sick and won’t be at work today. Poor Daddy, that is why he missed my recital, he was sick. I love my Daddy. I hope he feels good tonight because I am going to surprise him and dance for him before dinner.

When I get home from school Daddy isn’t home even though he missed work today. Daddy doesn’t come home after work and it is my bed time. Mommy said tomorrow is Saturday so I can show him my dance then.

August 27, 2015

Daddy Drinks

Filed under: Living a Healthy Lifestyle — by Ponder This @ 9:28

Last night Momma and Daddy didn’t yell. At breakfast both of them are in a really good mood. I skip to the bus because I am so happy. Momma was smiling this morning. I have so much fun at school today, my Daddy isn’t sick and my Momma feels good. When I get off the bus, I see a police car in our driveway. Momma and Daddy’s cars are in the driveway too. Mrs. Jones is standing in our yard motioning for me to go to her.

I start crying and asking what is wrong. Is Daddy sick? Is Momma sick? She tells me everything is going to be all right but I need to stay at her house until somebody comes and gets me. I won’t let me play outside. I stay in her house and look out the window at my house.

The policeman is bringing Daddyē out. His hands are behind his back. They push his head down and make him sit in the back seat of the police car. What did my Daddy do? Why are the police taking my Daddy away, where is my Momma? Mrs. Jones wants me to eat but I don’t want to, I want to go home. I want Momma.

Somebody rings Mrs. Jones’ doorbell. It’s a lady with a clipboard. She whispers to Mrs. Jones in the doorway and Mrs. Jones points to me. The lady comes in smiling and talking softly. She says I have to go with her and that Momma is in the hospital. Why is Momma in the hospital? She doesn’t answer me. She takes me to a house with lots of people in it, I think it is an orphanage. What is happening?

August 26, 2015

Addiction Through a Child’s Eyes

Filed under: Living a Healthy Lifestyle — by Ponder This @ 9:28

There are more people drinking and using drugs that have children than those who do not. The horrific consequences of addiction for the user is life threatening to their health and devastating for their families, especially their children.

In this series, I am writing about addiction from a child’s perspective:

I am a little girl and my Daddy drinks. He smells bad when he comes home late from work. Tonight I didn’t see him before it was my bedtime. I was asleep when I heard screaming. I ran to the kitchen to see Daddy hitting Momma. She screams for me to go back to bed. I’m not sure how she thinks I am going to be able to sleep. I’m crying and I pull the pillow over my ear so I don’t hear the noise.

The next thing I know Momma is waking me for school. I see bruises on her face and arms. She forgot to put her robe on like she usually does. She is acting funny, talking fast and trying to make me laugh, but I don’t. How can I when Daddy hits Momma?

August 25, 2015

Talk to Strangers

Ok I’ll be honest. Until January of this year I never read fiction. I was afraid it would interfere with my non fiction writing, which includes researching topics and writing articles as well as my creative non fiction writing.

I struck up a conversation with a stranger and somehow we started talking about movies. I told her I saw the Hunger Games, but didn’t like it. She told me I should read the book, it is better than the movie.

That’s all it took for me to fall in love with sci-fi. I’ve read the Hunger Games trilogy, the Maze Runner trilogy, and on and on. My last round of reading has been The Ender Games.

I love to read sci-fi, but I’m still not ready to write fiction but I’m not going to stop reading this genre.

Why do I tell all of this? This stranger in an elevator conversation of about one minute changed my frame of thinking and my mode of entertainment for the last five months.

This isn’t life altering or some spiritual conversation, but it does show the impact of a stranger. I could have been someone in need of something deeper and that conversation may have been different and it could have been life altering.

Say hello to others in the elevator. You never know what it will bring you and it can’t hurt!

August 24, 2015

Cell Phones, iPads and More

Filed under: Living a Healthy Lifestyle — by Ponder This @ 9:28

I’m driving 70 miles an hour on an interstate. I pass a van driving  and look over. A young mother is on her cell phone, holding a coke in her other hand and steering with her knee. Oh and she had children in the back seat.

Another time I’m on the expressway and notice ahead of me a car with the drive leaning so far to his right holding talking on his cell phone, with about 10 cars trying to pass him, he was driving so slow, oblivious of the anything but the telephone call.

I’m in Macy’s enjoying a leisurely day and notice a women on her cell phone discussing where she went to dinner the night before.

I’m in a restaurant on a Saturday evening and more people are on their phone than not.

Why is everything so urgent? Why do these people have to talk on their phone all the time? When did everything become NOW, even stupid things like what you ate for dinner the night before or what time you got up this morning?

The days of true leisure and relaxing are now replaced with cell phones other electronics . I cannot talk with some people without them constantly looking at their phone, for fear they miss a Facebook posting of a joke or something stupid. No one lives in the moment, enjoys a meal and children are not playing outside. They are on their ipads and other electronics. Someone said his 16-year-old son isn’t interested in getting his driver’s license because he plays games with his friends remotely, they are not in a room together. Children are not learning social skills and how to interact with people because they stare at a device 24/7.

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